I don't care what you wear... and neither should anyone else

 I am soooo tired of the judgmental folks out there ... like things that don't affect them AT ALL but they still feel the NEED to not only judge someone (99% a WOMAN) for  their dress but also have the AUDACITY TO COMMENT... I don't give a flying fuck what you are wearing or NOT wearing - guess what - its not going to change your credit score, the APR on your cred card, your cholesterol level.... so why care???? A "male" presenting person wearing makeup and/or nail polish, DON'T CARE, skimpy, revealing clothing DON'T CARE... guess what? WE ARE ALL NAKED UNDER OUR CLOTHES. AND get your mind out of the gutter -    NUDITY IN AND OF ITSELF IS NOT SEXUAL... ITS JUST NUDITY.... It is not "naughty" or "sinful" ..... its just a body! We all have bodies!!! my daughter teases me "you won't care if people were walking around NAKED"... and she's right.... Cuz I have learned not to waste my time and energy on things that have NO EFFECT ON MY LIFE..... PLUS I know that I would not appreciate someone making assumptions about my self image, my sex life, my self "worth" based solely on my attire at that particular moment. YOU DON'T KNOW SHIT ABOUT THAT PERSON yet you feel so entitled to JUDGE ....... I just don't get it....

Men are human too

I saw my son cry today...I hugged him, asked him if there was anything I could do to help.. and then I just sat with him... I was sitting next to him; I was there for him. It was the end-of-the-year ceremony; we were in "public where people could see him";  he was sad that his time with his friends was coming to an end. I never said "stop crying", I never said "Men don't cry", I never said "Don't be a baby", I never said "Don't be a girl".... My son, almost 22 years old, cried today and I'm glad. Not happy that he felt sadness but glad that he could be HUMAN and cry... everyone deserves to cry and not be belittled, not be shamed, not be degraded for expressing themselves as PERSONS.... we need to let our men be HUMAN, raise them to be able to express themselves in other ways than VIOLENCE. Can we please stop this expectation that the only acceptable "masculine" emotions are anger and jealousy?